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Receiving high-quality support confers many benefits. Yet, little is known about how support-seekers can elicit high-quality support. In two experiments and a couples’ interaction study, we examined how (and why) expressing negative thoughts and feelings affects romantic partners’ support and considered whether this depends on the severity of the stressor the support-seeker is facing. In Study 1, romantically involved participants who read a high (vs. low)-negative expressivity support-seeking text message wrote higher-quality support responses in both serious and trivial stressor contexts. Study 2 conceptually replicated these effects with new stressors. In Study 3, support-seekers who expressed more (vs. less) negativity during a face-to-face conversation with their romantic partner about a recent stressor received support higher in regulatory effectiveness (an index of support quality). Mediation analyses in Studies 2 and 3 suggested that negativity may enhance support, even for trivial stressors, by increasing provider perceptions that support is needed.
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Out of sight but in mind: Experimentally activating partner representations in daily life buffers against common stressors.
Lab experiments have shown that reminders of romantic partners buffer against stressors. Yet, tightly controlled experiments do not mimic what transpires in people’s actual lives. Thus, an important question is as follows: To what extent do reminders of romantic partners confer affective bene ts when they occur“in the wild” as people experience their daily activities? To capture people’s emotional experience in real time, two studies, each spanning 3 months, used event-contingent ecological momentary assessments with a within-subject experimental manipulation. Prior to encountering a stressful event (taking an exam), participants received either a supportive text message from their partner or no message (Studies 1 and 2), or a supportive text message from the research team (Study 2). Receiving supportive partner messages, compared to no messages or messages from the research team, led to less negative affect and greater positive affect, and to less negative affect and greater positive affect about the exam itself. Receiving supportive partner messages had no statistically signi cant effects on subjective stress. Interestingly, the quality of the partner messages, as coded by independent raters, did not signi cantly predict the magnitude of the affective bene ts. These ndings suggest that receiving any supportive partner message, and not necessarily more subtle differences in the quality of the message, may be the key ingredient for these bene ts to occur. The present work advances understanding of how the symbolic presence of partners confers affective regulatory bene ts in everyday life. Implications for emotion regulation and the utility of integrating perspectives from adult attachment are discussed.
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- PAR ID:
- 10580170
- Publisher / Repository:
- American Psychological Association
- Date Published:
- Journal Name:
- Emotion
- Volume:
- 25
- Issue:
- 2
- ISSN:
- 1528-3542
- Page Range / eLocation ID:
- 430 to 442
- Format(s):
- Medium: X
- Sponsoring Org:
- National Science Foundation
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